Role Models ~ Just What are Your Attendants Supposed to Do?

Taken from "Bridal Guide" July/August 2012

   So, you've established who's going to be in your bridal party - that's great - and they'll all have specific jobs and obligations to fulfill. Here's a rundown of who does what.

Ladies First
   Your maid of honor (matron of honor, if she's married) is the key bridesmaid. She signs your marriage license as a witness, and offers the most help as you plan the wedding. It's her job to coordinate dress fittings, take charge of bridal shower and bachelorette party plans and keep the other bridesmaids in the wedding loop. On the day of the wedding. she will help you dress, arrange your veil and train during the processional and recessional and hold your bouquet during the ceremony. Your bridesmaids help you with tasks like addressing invitations and will help plan the shower and bachelorette party (and contribute to the cost). The maid/matron of honor and all bridesmaids pay for the own attire, as well as transportation and lodging if they travel to the wedding from elsewhere.

Hey, You Guys!
   Just like the maid of honor, the best man signs your marriage license as a witness. In addition, he brings the wedding rings to the ceremony and holds the officiant's fee until after the ceremony. Other tasks: coordinating the groomsmen's formal wear fittings, organizing the bachelor party and delivering the first toast at the reception. The groomsmen, also known as ushers, assist the best man in planning and hosting the bachelor party (and help finance it). Groomsmen greet and seat the guests on the wedding day. They pay for their own attire, and are responsible for being fitted for and picking up their clothing from the formal wear shop. As well, they pay for their own travel and lodging expense.

Children's Hour
   The flower girl (between the ages of 4 and 8) walks ahead of you during the processional, usually scattering flower petals along the way or simply carrying a pretty bouquet or basket. The ring bearer (also between the ages of 4 and 8) walks down the aisle either alongside the flower girl or right before her, carrying the ring pillow with two wedding bands tied to it (most couples use fake ones lest the little guy lose them). The parents of the flower girl and ring bearer are expected to pay for their attire and are invited to attend the rehearsal dinner.

Tween Scene
   A girl between the ages of 9 and 13 is often considered too old to be a flower girl, so she is typically known as a junior bridesmaid. On the wedding day, she wears a dress that's usually more demure than those the adult bridesmaids wear, in the same color and fabric. Her male counterpart is a junior groomsman or junior user (he wears a tuxedo). These "tweens" neither attend the bachelor/bachelorette party nor are they held to the same financial obligations (though their parents will be).

You Have Duties Too
   Don't forget your responsibilities to this fantastic team.

• Be flexible. If most of your bridesmaids don't love their dress, consider another style or color. 
• Be sensitive about the time commitment your bridal party is making. Decide on dates for showers and parties as soon as possible so they can clear their schedules. 
• Be budget-conscious. Don't assume that everyone can afford a bachelor/bachelorette party in Las Vegas, a $300 outfit or pricey spa treatments on the day of the wedding. Also, expect that you won't receive expensive gifts from them - after all, look how much they're already spending on the big day. 
• Be a good sport! Let them embarrass and tease you a little. They know your limits, so just go with the flow. 
• Be grateful - extremely grateful. Honor them in the ceremony program, tell a member of the staff to pay special attention to them at the reception and give them a fabulous thank-you gift with a heartfelt, handwritten note. 

Classic Venue ~ Full-Service Hotels Can Handle All Your Nuptial Needs

Taken from "Weddings in Cleveland" December 2011

   Unless you're a professional party planner, chances are planning your wedding has been anything but easy. There are vendors to interview, colors to match, cakes to taste, and guest lists to manage. There is one part of your wedding plans that could keep your hassles to a minimum: the location.
   Where you choose to hold your wedding will shape the mood of the entire day. And whatever mood you're striving for, a hotel can provide everything from catering to guest accommodations to event planning assistance: all under one roof.

Where to Start Your Search
   If you've read this far then you probably know that one of the best places to find a hotel to help with your wedding is right here in Weddings in Cleveland magazine. The ceremony and reception section is filled with the area's best locations to help you sort out all the details. If you don't see exactly what you're looking for within these pages, ask friends and family members for recommendations. Jot their ideas down along with what they liked and disliked about the locations so you'll be able to ask detailed questions when you interview the different properties. It's a good idea to have a date in mind when looking at hotels, along with a general idea of the number of guests you'll be expecting. Both will help narrow down your hotel choices and give you a realistic idea of which property will provide the best fit.

What to Look For in a Property
   Finding just the right location in a sea of hotels can seem like a daunting task. Begin with your guest list: if it's on the large size, check out area properties that boast convention centers, meeting facilities, and ballrooms. If your list is smaller, a boutique or historic hotel might be a better choice.
   Once you've narrowed down your locations, decide which services you'd like to hotel to provide. The catering director or event planner will be able to give you all the options and work with you to create a plan that fits your needs and your budget.
   Don't be afraid to ask questions or request a articular item or service that's not in their initial proposal. You never know until you ask and they might be willing to negotiate in order to gain your business.
   If you're planning to use the hotel's ballroom as your reception site, you might also want to check out other areas of the property for the rehearsal dinner, after party, and host wedding brunch. It might be a convenient and cost effective alternative to plan all your pre- and post-wedding events at one property.

Why a Hotel is a Good Idea
   There are so many details to manage when planning a wedding that it can be very hard to keep everything straight. When you hold your celebration at a hotel,  you'll be working with professionals who assist brides every day in planning the wedding of their dreams.
   You can hand off an outline of the specifics you'd like for your celebration, and someone at the hotel will take care of the details for you. They'll work with the caterer (in-house, in most cases), coordinate with a linen supply company, contract servers and bartenders, and make sure that the room is set u to your specifications. And when it's all over, they'll even take care of the clean u. Add to that the ease of on-site guestrooms for all your out-of-town guests and a honeymoon suite for you, and you've got yourself a location that's convenient for you and your guests.
   A hotel can provide as much or as little as you need for your wedding day. Professional event planners, award-winning catering, to-of-the-line accommodations, and an elegant venue are just a few of the perks that come along with booking your celebration at a hotel.

Your Ceremony

   He asked you to marry him and you said yes! Congratulations! If you know that you will be married in a church ceremony, as soon as you have shared the good news with close family members, it is time to think about when and where you will be married.
   Once you have determined when, lock in the ceremony site and the reception venue. Then other plans can fall into place. As soon as possible, meet with the officiant and/or his/her representative to determine the "rules" guiding ceremonies in that church or synagogue. With that information in hand, you can begin to formulate your own personal touches with the goal of creating a beautiful setting that helps to establish the mood for your ceremony to come.
   As guests arrive, the setting - candles, lights, flowers and music can create a lovely atmosphere.
   Instruct ushers to make friendly small talk with guests as they arrive and as they are escorted to their seats. This is truly welcoming and helps guests to feel at ease. If yours is a small wedding, ushers can present a single flower to female guests along with a note from you welcoming them to the wedding. A welcome flower can also be presented along with the programs.
   Consider having ceremony hosts welcome guests at the entrance doors. Choose one from each family - someone who is likely to recognize the majority of the guests as they arrive. Your parents may be mingling with guests at this point or may be needed with the wedding party.
   If you have music playing as guests arrive and are seated, be sure someone is ready to cue the music to change tempo or volume or both so that special music plays as the parents of the bride and groom are seated. More and more couples are choosing to have a card or note from them along with a single flower or small wrapped gift  waiting in the pew for parents as they are seated.
   Consider having the music change again as the groom and his best man take their places. Then as the processional begins, the music should change again for the bridesmaids and flower girls.
   The bride should make an entrance cued by more dramatic "announcement" music. If the church or facility can manage it, consider dimming the house lights and turn on pre placed lighting aimed at the aisle just before the bride begins her walk to the altar.
   Above all remember that the ceremony that the ceremony is the cornerstone of the day and the reason the guests have gathered. The reception celebrates what has happened in that church.