What's Hot in 2011 - Dazzling Decor

Taken from Bridal Guide January/February 2011

     The look of the year? Vintage. "I'm so excited that the traditional wedding is coming back," says Tara Guerard, or Soiree in Charleston and New York. "It's whites and champagnes, grays, golds and maybe a pop of lavender - muted colors that are classic and timeless."
     Capture vintage glamour with cut-crystal chandeliers. "Chandeliers are going to be the look," predicts New York City-based Bentley Meeker, the lighting designer behind Chelsea Clinton's wedding.
     The easiest way to get the vintage look? Wallpaper, says California planner Sasha Souza of Sasha Souza Events. Not only is it relatively inexpensive, but you can use a gorgeous vintage print and still get a modern feel.
     The something new is something blue. Tara says, "Navy popped on white is such a tailored look. I just did a wedding in lavender, robin's egg and Carolina blue.
     Table numbers are out, says Melinda Morris of Lion in the Sun, a paperie in Brooklyn, NY. Her brides are asking for table illustrations. Escort cards are printed with guest names and a small image, which guests match to images on the tables inspired by the couple's story. "It's uber personal - this is the story of our day and how we got here," Melinda says.
     Get a stunner of a bar. Tara says, "I like to do something like an old bar from the fifties with glassware stacked behind it. I even like to have stools at the bar."
     This year's wow factor? Bentley's pick is video scenes. "Imagine a big white wall nicely lit up. Then it turns into a beach with rippling water, then a beautiful sunset, then a starry night sky. You can create a whole video and turn the room into whatever you like. And it's gorgeous!"
     Nineteen-fifties and fabulous. "The look is tailored, with a clean line. It's from the fifties - so feminine." Tara says. "I'm excited about it because I'm Southern."
     From the invites to the menus to statement splashes on the dance floor, brides are branding their day with a custom-designed wedding emblem. "One bride chose a lino's head in cobalt blue and gold," says Tara. But does that mean monograms are out? "Monograms will always be in," she says. "But now the  monogram is nestled into a wedding emblem.

Finesse the Guest List

From Bridal Guide January/February 2011

Here's how to get a handle on some common dilemmas.

Compiling a guest list seems daunting. Where do I start?
First, think about the style of wedding you envision. "Ask yourself: 'Do I want a 300-person bash, an intimate dinner or a destination wedding?" suggests Christine Paul of Christine Paul Events in new York City. Or, if you're considering a particular venue, figure out how many guests you can comfortably accommodate. Start your list with close friends and family, then add until you've reached the ideal number for the space you've booked.

My parents would like to ask some people. Do I have a say over their choices?
Sure you do. But first give them a number to aim for. Paul suggests allotting 25% of the guest list to the bride's parents, 25% to the groom's parents and 50% to the couple themselves. this keeps parents from taking over - after all, it's your wedding. You definitely can question some of their choices, too. "Have an intelligent conversation with your parents about it," says Sherri Williams of Williams-Sossen Events, which has locations in Philadelphia and New York City. But if the 'rents are paying for the wedding, try to be as tolerant as possible.

My list is too long! How do I make cuts?
"Take a look at the friends you're inviting," says Williams. "How important are they to you?" Another tip: "Try dividing the list into the people you can't imagine not having and those who could decline and you wouldn't mind," says Paul. also, look for groups of people you can eliminate: The pals from your yoga class probably won't be offended if they're not invited. Consider taking children off the list, too. You may decide to have an "A-list" of people who'll get invitations right away and a "B-list" of those who are invited as other decline. Be sure to ask A-listers to RSVP well in advance so B-listers don't feel they're last minute invites.

I'm including a lot of single friends, and I'll go over budget if I let them all bring dates. How do I decide who gets to bring a guest?
"You never have to invite your single friends with dates," says Paul. "But it's always nice." Consider having all your single friends come dateless - they can socialize together. If you have room for a few extras, evaluate each situation. Are some in ongoing relationships? Then it makes sense to invite the partner. Or, if all your work friends are married except for one, she may feel more comfortable if she's able to bring a date.

Is it appropriate to invite an ex? My ex and I have become friendly and I don't know what I should do.
If you feel at all uncertain, don't. Your wedding day should be about you and your fiance. "It's only appropriate to invite an ex if you and your fiance agree it's okay, and you decide together where he should sit," says Williams. If you and your ex have children, having him at the wedding could be confusing to the kids.

A few guests haven't replied to my RSVP date. What should I do?
Have a friend or family member call or e-mail them to find out if they're attending. "Never assume they're not coming." says Williams. Guests often just forget to pop the response card in the mail, and you don't want to be surprised when the show up on the big day.

Many DIY wedding websites have tools that let you create a guest list online, or upload a list onto the site. If you're not taking your wedding to the Internet, you can purchase a program with similar guest-list functions that will allow you to merge multiple lists, record gifts and more. We like Excel best because it's easy to sort the list, store info (like the number of guests per party) and print up addresses for your calligrapher. Plus, you can update and use this list in the future for holiday cards and more.